Wouldn’t it be fabulous if every time we chose to babywear in public, strangers would smile at us, say something encouraging, or perhaps even better… just mind their own business.
Unfortunately, as soon as you have a child, your actions in public suddenly become open to scrutiny, comments, and general rudeness. Especially if you’re doing something a little different to the norm, like babywearing.
Until babywearing is fully normalised – where just as many people choose carriers as prams for their babies and toddlers – babywearers are very likely to continue to get comments in public. It’s just a reality that most of us have to accept.
The worst thing though, is when someone says something, and you are caught off guard. “Uhhhhh” you say, as you stare blankly, feeling a tad stupid. And then like 10 minutes later, the perfect comeback comes to you. But it’s too late.
Don’t worry though, we’ve got your back! Here are some of the most commonly heard public comments and criticisms of babywearing and comebacks you can whip out at a moment’s notice! We’ve included some cheeky and polite options, depending on the kind of person you are, or the mood you are in. You’re welcome ;-).
Can they breathe in there?
Can’t you walk?
Those things really hurt your backs.
I’ve heard it’s not good for baby’s hip development.
Wow, aren’t you too old for that?
I’ve heard that’s not actually safe.
Gee, I wish I could hop in there.
That can’t be comfortable.
Do you need me to lend you a pram?
At the end of the day, people need to start minding their own business and accept that your parenting choices have nothing to do with them. Ideally, they’d keep their comments to themselves.
But if nothing else, you can use the opportunity to improve their knowledge and awareness of this awesome parenting tool (you never know who is listening!) OR deliver a brilliant comeback. Need some ice for that burn? Oooooooh.
Happy public babywearing!
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P.P.S. For ultimate babywearing solidarity, I highly recommend hanging out with other likeminded parents. Join Brooke and I at a local babywearing meet sometime (we’re in north Brisbane – search Facebook groups for Brisbane Baby Wearing Community & North Brisbane Babywearing Social Meets!). There are usually other meets in your local area – head to the general Babywearing support page and look in the files.
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